Here is a list of the most Dangerous Messages that Damage Your Child’s Self–Esteem:
Threatening the child to leave them at home if they do not hurry up or when you are outside if you threaten to leave him/her there when child shows tantrums and doesn’t want to go back home. This develops insecurity in children & rather than solving the immediate small problem at hand, you are creating a monster of a problem.
Frowning or sighing when your child wants to talk to you or ask you for something. Give them time, or if you are busy at that time, fix a time to discuss & make sure to honour this fixed time.
Put down messagese.g. “You are good for nothing!” really damage self-esteem. Don’t exaggerate the charge.
Accentuating the negatives of the child especially in front of others. Remember the golden rule: “Always criticize in Private & Compliment in Public.”
Children who are abused (physical beating or sexual abuse) are more likely to suffer low self-esteem as adults. They have learned that they are of little value in themselves or just an object to be used/ abused.
Other forms of abuse, like being heavily criticized or unfavorably compared to others can also lead to low self-esteem (e.g. “Why can’t you be more like your elder brother!”).
Harsh words spoken to a child can resonate throughout their lifetime, as can words of encouragement! Words have the ability to elevate someone to their highest potential or shred their well-built self-esteem in seconds. “You are …” messages fall under this category. E.g. “You are lazy, untidy, naughty, a nuisance, coward, shy, etc.” Try avoiding them at all cost.